A Time For Everything: A Guide for Tough Times

Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8

1 There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: 2 a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, 3 a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, 4 a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance, 5 a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them, a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing, 6 a time to search and a time to give up, a time to keep and a time to throw away, 7 a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak, 8 a time to love and a time to hate, a time for war and a time for peace.

When we enter difficult times it can seem as if it lasts forever. When I began having uncontrolled seizures and was officially diagnosed with epilepsy I thought those difficult years would never end, but by some miracle they did end and I found control. When my son was born 6 weeks premature I thought his stay in the NICU was going to last forever. All we wanted was to bring our baby home as normal new moms and dads do. Soon enough he came home and we got to be the parents we wanted to be. When I was told my baby had no heartbeat at my 9 weeks check up those few moments seemed to stretch out and last a lifetime. The deafening silence that overtook our house that day with 3 young children seemed to last an eternity, but this difficult time to did eventually end and we now await our rainbow baby, Elijah Beau.

Scripture tells there is a time for everything. Which means whatever difficult thing you face and are going through will eventually end. The darkness won’t last forever. You will laugh again. You will smile again. You will feel joy again. You will be hopeful and at peace again. It may seem like an eternity as you walk through it but eventually that darkness will end and you’ll find yourself standing in the warmth of his light again.

What we must remember that even though times may look bleak. Even though you may feel alone, you aren’t alone. He is with you. He’s carrying you through this. You may not feel him right because he’s busy making sure you can continue to move forward. In a book by Holley Gerth, she had a quote by a Henry Cloud that is worth remembering: “There is a big difference between hurt and harm…We all hurt sometimes in facing hard truths, but it makes us grow. It can be a source of huge growth. That is not harmful. Harm is when you damage someone.”

Our hurt is something that can forge us into someone stronger and prepare us for whatever God has planned for us in the future. Sometimes God allows us to go through the hard times so we have the tools we need to serve him down the road. We must remember that we live in a fallen world and those dark times won’t always be fair. In fact, they usually aren’t, but it is the price we pay for living in the world we live in. We can turn the hurt and dark times into something beautiful. Maybe it enables us to help someone out down the road going through something similar. Maybe it helps us give a voice to an issue that needs to be heard. Maybe it is something we must go through so we avoid making the same mistake more than once.

Whatever it is that is hard and has you in a dark place. Remember you are not alone. This to shall end. You will smile again and if you are willing something beautiful can come from all this pain.

Prayer:

Lord help me through this dark time. I can’t see the light ahead but I know you can see a clear path. Carry me when I need to be carried. Give me strength when I need strength. Give me hope and peace to hang on to through this dark time. Be patient with me Lord. I may get angry with you. I may not have the strength to talk to you, but I want you by my side. I need your help to find the blessings in what seems to be a hopeless situation. Amen.

Song of Meditation:

It’s Okay To Hurt

John 11: 35

35 Jesus wept.

All of us eventually come to a point in our lives where something happens that just guts us. It hollows you out and leaves unable to do anything but to weep in great sorrow. For me, it was not so long ago. In April of 2018 I went in for a prenatal checkup, and found out my fourth child, Baby Sam, had died at six weeks gestation. This hollowed me out and I was barely able to contain my tears until I reached the van.  I wept that day. The grief overcame me and took over everything. I had already begun to imagine life with the new addition and how I was going to mother 4 kids instead of 3. I wasn’t the only one in my family who was overcome with grief. 

My husband fell apart and wept. My children, we had only recently shared the news because I began to show also began to sob. They had been so excited for another new baby.  A silence befell our house that day. An eerie deafening silence as we all retreated to our rooms and wept. Although we were all under the same roof, we all felt very alone. We all wept.

This is okay. If you yourself are going through something, it is okay to put life on hold and weep. Jesus himself did in the verse mentioned above. Even during this holiday season, it is okay to pause from all the merriment and to weep. Maybe this isn’t your time to make merry, but instead to grieve whatever it is you need to grieve. Find a place, weep, mourn, ask God for comfort, and when you are ready take the first step forward.  

Prayer:

Lord, help me through this time of sorrow. I don’t have much to say right now. All I can say is I feel broken and like my world has been turned upside down. Just be with me and give me comfort during this difficult time. In your name. Amen. 

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